Happy Friday! Since I’m still on maternity leave I’m slightly less excited about Fridays because it’s just another week that is behind me. But, I’m still excited to have Tim home for the weekend and for water babies on Saturday. I hope you all have exciting or relaxing weekends planned depending on what you need.
5 things I’ve learned since becoming a mom.
I thought I’d share 5 things I’ve learned since becoming a mom a bit over three months ago. There are a lot more things that I have learned, but these are the ones that I think about on a near daily basis that I just really didn’t truly realize until I became a mom.
Don’t trust a trick baby!
Olivia has been such a great sleeper aside from the first night home from the hospital. She woke up twice per night at regularly scheduled intervals for the first month, and then she slowly transitioned to one wake up per night for the second and most of the third month. Suddenly, this past Sunday she decided she needed to wakeup every hour or two or three all night every night. I’m not sure if it’s a growth spurt or the four month sleep regression coming early, but I’m certain that I’m exhausted and kicking myself for thinking she was always going to be such a great sleeper.
You can’t put a little baby on a schedule.
Unless you have a magic baby, I can’t see a baby following a schedule. I spent a long time in weeks 6 and 7 finding a schedule that I liked to start setting Olivia up on. That was funny. I got so confused when she wasn’t taking a two hour nap when the book said she should take a two hour nap or why she didn’t want to go to sleep when the book said she wanted to go to sleep. Instead, we follow a pattern, and it works so much better for us. I can’t guarantee what time Olivia is going to be awake at certain times during the day, but I can guarantee that it will be one hour and fifteen minutes or less from each wakeup until the next time she starts to fuss to go to sleep. I’ve heard that in a few months she’ll be on a more solid schedule, but I’m not going to hold my breath for now.
You will think in terms of two to three hour cycles.
As we’ve been going and doing things, I plan completely around Olivia and her sleep and eating needs. If we’re going to go out I feed her then immediately head out to maximize the amount of time we can be out before she needs to eat again. If we’re going to be out a long time I bring something that I know she can either sleep in on me or something that will help her fall asleep in the stroller. I’m always watching my baby app to check until the next time she’s going to wake up or start to fuss to eat to pre-plan where I am at that time. Essentially, your time is no longer your time anymore.
Being a mom is the hardest but the best thing.
So many people told me this before I became a mom, but I was a little (or a lot) stupid. My guess is most people are before they have kids when thinking about what it will be like to have kids. I knew it would be hard, but I didn’t really think about exactly how hard. I don’t think there would have been a way to make me understand exactly how draining and tiring it is, but looking back I really do wish I had cherished that sleep a little bit more. That said, it truly is the very very best thing. Olivia woke up more last night than she ever has, and then this morning had some diapering issues, but as soon as I fed her and started talking to her, her babbles and smiles immediately helped erase how tired and frustrated I had been overnight.
You will know love like you’ve never known love before.
I know not all moms immediately feel the overwhelming love that they expect at birth, but I was blessed and bonded with Olivia very quickly. I experienced some baby blues, but my tears frequently came because my heart almost hurt with how much I loved her. The love moms feel or most will eventually feel is something indescribable, and I didn’t understand it when people told me until I had Olivia in my arms.
These may not be true for everyone, but for me they’re constants. I know that the sleeping will change as Olivia gets older, but as I look forward to things she’ll be able to do in the future I remind myself not to wish her older since time is already flying. My life has changed, and while I sometimes miss things I could do or things I didn’t worry about in the past, the difficulties and hard times have absolutely been worth it for the good times, smiles, and coos.
Did you experience any of these, and what have I not come to realize yet since Olivia is still so little?