Money isn’t a normal topic I post about on here, but something happened in April that I thought was worth sharing. In the past I’ve been a bit of a spender (to say the least…). I bought clothes, shoes, running stuff, jewelry, monthly box subscriptions, or other random items that I can’t always recount. Tim has been very focused on saving and reaching savings goals and has been trying to get me to buy in for a few months now. I saved quite a bit in March to appease him, but I broke records (for myself) in April; this made me pretty proud of myself as well. I definitely saved more this past month than I have ever in a month. And when the month ended and I saw all that I had saved, I immediately had a thought:
“I’m going to buy more stuff in May.”
I texted this to Tim, mainly as a joke, but also because I decided that I could spend more and still save enough to make myself and Tim happy.
But then I spent some time thinking yesterday and today about what I didn’t buy this month that I had bought in previous months and missed. And the earth started shaking and the heavens opened up, and I realized that there wasn’t anything I didn’t buy this month that I felt like I missed out on. And to take it even a step further, I thought really hard about whether I was less happy last month than I was in previous months, and I have to tell you that my thoughts led me directly to a resounding: not at all.
I’m not less happy or satisfied because I didn’t buy things.
This may sound ridiculous to have to actually have to type out, but there have been so many months that I’ve set savings goals and haven’t reached them because I bought stupid things that I later can’t even explain or necessarily remember (probably a few of the things pictured above). Maybe it’s even crossing the border of sounding shopaholic-ish, but I wanted to document it. I never thought “things” made me happy per se, but I guess I thought in some way I would miss them more when they weren’t arriving on my doorstep or being carried into my house on a semi-regular basis. I don’t.
There have always been things I’ve seen and wanted to buy, and I would decide to buy them, whether or not I needed them. I didn’t do it this past month…and in the end I haven’t even missed it.
Are you in control of your spending?
Do you set savings goals and meet them monthly?
Have you ever thought happiness and buying things would feel associated?
And that leads me to a few goals this month…I haven’t set them in a few months, but I want to for May.